Learning to Listen to Yourself First
We’ve all fallen down, haven’t we? When all of a sudden it feels like you’ve been hit with a giant 2×4 right in the forehead. The wind is knocked out of you, and you find yourself on the ground wondering how the hell you got there. You spend some time thinking back to recent (and maybe not so recent) events and say to yourself “Why didn’t I see it then? How did I get here when there were so many warning signs?”
Maybe you have gone through a break up where you felt like this, or upon leaving a job, you recall looking back wondering how you stayed for so long. Whatever the case may be, I’m willing to bet that upon looking back, you are able to see lots of things that you chose to over look at the time. This is why they say that hind sight is 20/20.
I beg to differ. I think all sight is 20/20, when we train ourselves to look and listen in the effective ways.
How different would life be if you could learn to recognise the learnings in a situation long before it gets out of hand? What if you could see the signs that something has to change while there is still time to make those changes? Here are a few powerful things I’ve learned by getting knocked down (and getting back up again)
Your emotions never lie. When you experience negative emotions, its your way of telling yourself that there is something to be paid attention to. You may be doing something that you know isn’t right for you deep down, which is a personal values violation. For example, maybe you are not speaking up for yourself at your job or in your relationship to save face. Negative emotions are also a sign that you need to keep your eyes on the prize. If you are repeatedly feeling ‘bad’ feelings in a given situation, chances are you have lost sight of the end goal in mind. If the negative emotions persist, perhaps you are on the wrong path altogether.
Remember, you know deep down what you want and need. When you set a goal for yourself that you truly want, and then you find yourself in situations that don’t support that goal, your Unconscious Mind WILL point out to you that you are veering in the wrong direction. You have to be willing to listen though. Since your Unconscious Mind is the domain of the emotions, this is the way it tries to show you that you are going against your goal. Don’t curse yourself for feeling bad. Thank your Unconscious Mind and be proud of yourself for noticing that you are living out of integrity.
Aches have voices. When negative emotions go unnoticed or unattended to for too long, you will start to feel aches and pains in the body. This is a more extreme way your Unconscious Mind tries to get you to attend to the feelings you are having. You can definitely deny feelings you are having, it gets harder however, to pretend that you are not having back pain for example. As an extreme measure to get you to work through your emotions, your UM makes it more obvious by creating chronic pain. And the chronic pain will continue until you attend to the feeling that are bend denied. If you learn to ask yourself ‘what emotion am I feeling now? and learn to be in the moment with your emotions, you can free yourself of unnecessary aches and pains.
Learning to listen to the quiet whispers in your life takes practice and time. The most important compass you have is your emotions. When you are experiencing negative emotions, trust yourself enough to know that you need to look closely and evaluate what is going on. This doesn’t mean that you need to cut and run, but it may mean that you have things to deal with from the past that you haven’t been aware of until now, or maybe you need to reevaluate how you are going about getting a certain goal. Its vital to learn to listen to the subtle cues that are in front of you, so you can utilise all the tools and resources you have.
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