How to Stay Positive When Things Aren’t Going Your Way
Remember you’ve probably been here before: You are way more equipped to deal with tough situations than you think. You have been through things that were challenging before & you came through, just like you will this time. Remember times when you got past something difficult in the past, paying specific attention to when you knew you were ‘out of the woods’ or definitely over the past hurt. Remember this when you are feeling overwhelmed about your current situation.
Ask yourself empowering questions: What is this situation teaching me? Live life on the premise that everything that happens to you was sent to you from your future self to teach you something that you will need for the future. Get in the habit of asking yourself what this situation is meant to teach you that will be valuable for you in the future.
Give yourself a break: We all have responsibilities, and sometimes we let them get the better of us. If you are going through something difficult, give yourself permission to take a couple of days off to sort through your emotions. The sooner you allow yourself to understand what you are feeling and sort through those feelings, the sooner you can learn from this experience and move on. If you don’t allow yourself time to go through this now, it could linger on for months or even years. Everyone will be better off if you give yourself the time you need now.
Support Yourself: During times of stress, its really important to support yourself physically so you can allow yourself to heal. Make sure to get plenty of sleep, water and nutritious food. Emotional stress can be extremely taxing on the body, so its imperative that you support your immune system by giving your body what it needs.
Ask for support: Lean on the people around you to help you through. Even if your family and friends don’t have personal experience with what you are going through, it will be invaluable to verbalise what is going on for you. In order to deal with something, you must first identify it. If nothing else, its important to talk to others just to identify what exactly is going on for you so you don’t have to hold on to in any longer than necessary. Reaching out to a coach could also help you work through your situation in an empowering way.
Get perspective by being grateful: Always ask yourself, ‘Is there someone worse off than me?” The answer will be yes. This isn’t to trivialise your feelings or what you are going through. Its simply to give you some perspective. There is always someone going through a tough time as well, and you can draw on that to remind yourself that you are just as strong as that person and you will get through it. Practice being grateful for what you have by keeping a gratitude journal and make a ritual of writing in it when ever you feel yourself in a negative state or feeling negative emotions such as sadness or fear.
In time, you will look back on your tough situation and feel empowered knowing the person you became by going through it. Always remember to keep that in mind.