How to Motivate Others
Have you ever wondered how you can motivate others, or inspire them? Sometimes we are taught that what other people decide to do is none of our business and it’s not up to us to change other people, but there are ways you can help out other people while not taking responsibility for their journey.
See the light. The most important thing we can do for each other is to see the light in one another. Choosing to see the person underneath the behaviour is so important. Even if someone is acting in a way that is disrespectful or even hurtful, assume that the person is doing the best they can with what they know. This doesn’t mean you allow your own boundaries to be overrun, and you may have to distance yourself from people who are going through their own stuff. It’s still important to hold a positive belief about people inside yourself. Have you ever done something or said something that was ‘out of character’? Just because our actions are sometimes harmful doesn’t mean that we are bad people. When we choose to see the person inside, and not judge others only by their actions, we hold an idea (or projection) of them that is positive rather than negative. Think of it this way: if a child is struggling in school at reading, and everyone around them believes that this child will never be able to read, how much harder will it be for that child to improve? It’s not impossible for people to overcome other peoples opinions and projections, but if we all chose to hold positive projections for one another it would allow us all to have an easier time living up to who we really are deep down. If we go on believing that people are only their behaviours, what chance to they have of doing better for themselves or for others?
Praise. Tell someone how great they’re doing, even if they have a long way to go. Change takes courage, no matter how big or small the change is. When you point out that they are making progress, it will ignite their motivation to continue on that path.
Ask for help. Enlisting the help of someone who is unsure of themselves can allow them to see just how capable they are. Many people will not hesitate to help others, even when they hesitate to help themselves. Assisting you will give them more real world proof of their own unique spark inside.
Be impartially partial. Take a step back, and don’t become invested. Paradoxically, you will be invested in people who you want to help. You have to learn to see the light in others, and hold that space and projection for them, while also being okay if they don’t live up to the person you see them as. Everyone has their own unique journey and lessons to learn at their own pace. The best thing you can do is believe in them and believe that in their time they will find the light in themselves.