How Comfortable Are You?
What if you could make your dreams a reality? What if everything you ever wanted what just outside your comfort zone?
How Comfortable Are You?
They say variety is the spice of life. I would argue that the spice of life is actually progress. We all want to make progress in our lives. That’s why most of us, when left with life exactly as it is today, would not be happy for long. There is no more room for improvement or progress. That’s not to say that life isn’t great, or that we shouldn’t be grateful for what we have. But denying our nature as human beings will only end in regret. To live a fulfilled life, it’s paramount to be making progress and learning in all areas.
So why do so many of us keep on living the same day over and over again, making no significant changes, even though deep down what we desire is to make progress? Why do so many of us excel in one area, and accept mediocrity in another? For most people, they are great in certain areas of life, and in others they seem to go in circles. You may be doing great with your health, but for some reason, you can’t get your health in order. Or you have a great relationship, but your career is going nowhere. There is always room for improvement, no matter how much success you have had.
What makes having less than you want deep down an acceptable way to live? It’s the Comfort Zone. The Comfort Zone is a place where everything is just comfortable. Things aren’t terrible, but they’re not great either. It feels safe here because things are predictable. Over time you know what to expect.
Many people live in the Comfort Zone for their whole lives. They either don’t see anything outside of where they are, or if they’re like most people, they see that there is more out there, and they want more, they just don’t have a clue how to get from the comfortable place they are now to the new place where what they want is. It’s not just that you don’t know how either.
What makes the Comfort Zone so enticing, and so welcome in our lives sometimes? It’s the perceived safety of it. The fear of the unknown can be paralysing, and the perceived danger of change can lead to arrested development. There is no real risk being comfortable is there?
I would argue that the Comfort Zone is actually the biggest risk of all.
You know that there is more. You’ve peaked out from your current situation and saw what other people were doing, haven’t you? You’ve seen other people with great relationships or great careers, and you know that you can have what they have. Somehow. If you ask yourself deep down, you know this is true. You want more, because you’re human. You want more because it’s hard wired in the body.
The Comfort Zone is a paradox. Once you’re there, you feel comfortable and safe, but the instant you look up and ask what’s next?, it’s time to leave.
Once you spark a wanting inside yourself, there is no way back. There is no way you can unwant it. You can try in the hopes of staying comfortable, but the longer you stay, the more uncomfortable it’s all going to become.
So what you’ll be left with is an uncomfortable Comfort Zone, being held on to to avoid the discomfort of something new. Plus you won’t have what you want. Does that sound like somewhere anyone in their right mind would choose to live?
Where are you living right now? Are you comfortable? Do you know you want more? Doesn’t that mean that its time to create a new way of being in which comfort becomes a sign that it is time to take things to the next level?
Is comfort & predictability really worth risking who you are for? Is it really that great, if holding on to it means you’ll be giving up living the life of your wildest dreams??